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还是要感谢那些跟我一起成长的人

周末约女朋友下午茶，喝罢未尽兴，又加晚餐，仍不想散去，又转酒吧。

从午后到午夜，不觉长，也不觉累。

回到家，躺在床上，回想聊了什么，居然也记不太清楚。

仿佛就是把最近发生的事情讲给她们，然后听她们讲发生在她们身边的事

居然发现，很多事情，其实很像。

 

正如那句话，感同身受。你能听懂我说的，我也能听懂你的，相同的频道。

 

生活在继续。两年前，我们都相同的疯狂，又相同的desperate。

一起去参加每一个party，坚持到最后。一起去date陌生人，然后半路跑掉。

我们有着对感情相同的不信任，对身边的人失望。

我们敢于尝试一切未知，然后一起承受伴随来的痛苦。

 

时光荏苒，白驹过隙，现在的我都未必能跟彼时的自己作朋友。

 

几近同时，我们一起长大了。发现了人生不同的意义，找到真实的生活节奏。

 

我们开始关心自己，在乎身边的人，计划未来。

我们不在买那些光鲜华丽但又不切实际的衣服

不去那些喧闹到再大声也听不见彼此内心的地方

选家庭型的车，投资super，买健康保险

为从不讨好别人的你，一起精心策划给他的生日惊喜

期待下一次以家庭为单位的出游

 

谢谢你，还是跟我在相同的地方。

没有比我早早的领悟，也没有停在我身后执迷不悟

让我在需要朋友的时候，伸伸手就能感到你的温暖

 

如果我们是苍茫宇宙中的两个小星球，

无意中相撞在一起

希望我们以相同的速度按一个方向滑行下去

直到永远

又到一年许愿时

当MB在我耳边哼哼唧唧的唱完生日歌后，跟以往所有人一样，他说：babe，make a wish。

我还真的想了一下。 好像记得以前老师说过wish 跟hope的区别。

wish一般是比较不容易发生的，hope被实现的可能性比较高。

例句就是对病人要说 hope you well，而明知不可能的要说 wish you the best。

 

Anyway，如果真的说wish，我希望我出生在一个Latino family，在巴黎长大，独身去纽约上大学。

课余时间作Dr Lightman的助手。每次穿过Brooklyn时候，有黑人对我吹口哨。

我对他们大喊：shout your fxxking face, your uncle fxxker…..

 

现实是我出生在中国家庭，生活在偏远的澳洲，每次走在Redfern有土著多看我一眼，都有要暴走逃开的冲动。

不是抱怨，这也总比出生在印度家庭，生活在阿富汗，走在路上被suicide boomer跟着强。

 

No racist，No racist

 

总之，这个真的是wish而不是hope。

可是，在生活中，你也总会得到你List上的东西，吃到喜欢的食物，跟喜欢的人在一起。许愿又有什么特别呢？

扯的有点远了。

 

感谢，那些记得我生日的人。无论是把这个日子记在心里，脑海里，还是日记本里。我很感动。

那些忘记的，也没关系。只是希望你们没有忘记这一天也是母亲节，替我抱抱你们的妈妈也好。

 

而此刻，我也只想抱抱我的妈妈了。

Candy`s speech on wedding day

I started planing this wedding straight after we got engaged in Venice last june. I just couldnt wait any longer to marry him.
But planning wedding dose take lots of time and efforts. But now, its all happening. For me its like a dream came true.

Marry him is the biggest decision i have ever made of my life. But it wasnt hard for me at all. He has got everything i want, plus more.
He is so sexy, so smart, and most importantly so kind. He always knows what to do and how to do for the best of our interests. Just like
last week, we had a serious conversation about planing our future life and career together. As i was depressed by the uncertainty and pressure
, i went silent and started doubting. I was doubting if i could be a successful career woman; I was doubting if i could be a good wife, life partner
and a great mum in the future. However, i knew deeply inside, there wasnt even one second i doubting you, or my love for you, or how much i could give up just
to be with you.

As i was crying inside, you just turned around and hold me into your arms, whispering "no matter what you do, no matter who you are, i will always love you"

Babe,today i would like to take this opportunity ,in front of my family and all my friends, to declare my love to you. I will love you, care for you and be with you until
the end of my life.

I LOVE YOU.

MB`s speech on the wedding day

I always pictured myself marrying a beautiful woman, getting a house and children and a dog.
But as years later and relationships came and went, the dream seems slip away. But now with you
,my lovely bride Candy, the dream came true for me. Maybe i will have to change the dog to a cat, but even better.

When i first met you, i told you i was looking for true love in the pub, you thought that was the biggest joke of the year. While i guess
i wasn`t joke then. When i saw, straight way i knew you are the one i will always love. But it wasn`t love at firsr sight, because i felt
i have known you from long time ago. Because i felt something warm very familiar deeply inside of me.

When i got to know you better, you are everything i ever wanted for my wife, even 100 times more than i expected. My proposal all comes
nature, i hide my ring really hard, i chose the most romantic place in our Europe trip, the place you couldnt say NO to.

And now, you finally become my lovely wife, who i can spend the rest of my life with, and to complete my perfect family picture, i committee to truly love you,
make you life an interesting journey with me, to be a great husband, a great father, a great son in our family and a great cat lover.

I also want to thank you for being you, being so beautiful and so lovely, being such a smart and caring person and most VIVID person i have ever seen.

I will love you just as you are,and ever change into someone you are not. Finally, i want to quote from an amazing person once said "to the world you may be one
person; to one person you are the world"

Please all join me to raise my glass to my beautiful bride, the one i love with all my heart. Cheers!

如果这算是祝福的话⋯⋯

新年伊始，总有人在回顾，也会有人在展望。想来，大家心里都有仪式感，在交界处作个记号。

一直以来，我的思维方式都停留在向前的方向。我不盘点。这是一个对我颇为熟悉的朋友下的结论。

好的，坏的，发生了，也会过去的，慢慢就忘记了。

真的不必沉浸在过去中，快乐的，悲伤的，都淡的没有味道了。

也不要留恋于畅想的未来，再漂亮的颜色，都是虚幻的泡沫。

珍惜眼前吧。

珍惜你现在所拥有的。放下所有包袱，努力的去让一切都变得值得。

这一次，别输在起跑线上。

番茄炒蛋，再加一个蛋

我跟MB之间，曾经有个“危险信号”的约定。如果任何一方在身处紧急（比如果被坏人劫持，被讨厌的人纠缠等等）但是又不方便表明的时候，就用“番茄炒蛋，再加一个蛋” 来代表危险跟需要帮助。

进入12月，悉尼的天气也一点没有好转的迹象。还是忽冷忽热的。更加相信关于2012的预言，但是又不是很恐惧，反倒是又点小兴奋。今天看书才知道，在心理学上，这个叫做“锚定原理”。比如说，你考试不及格，同样是一次不及格，当你知道只有3个人不及格跟一半以上人都不及格的感觉绝对不会相同。同理可证。

最近的生活因为婚礼将侄而忙碌很多。每个休息得日子都安排了一些事情要做，一些人要见。因为这个婚礼， 也让我跟一些本来是陌生人有了交集。我友善风趣的celebrant Keith先生，我美丽的舞蹈老师Freya小姐，我的摄影师Kevin，化妆师Edmond，DJ Damus…..他们未必与我相识很久，但是都为了我的大日子精心策划着。
更不用说我的好姐妹们，约好的下午茶也安排在逛街之后，聊天也是围绕着伴娘礼服的颜色跟手捧花的大小。闺蜜送我的美丽嫁衣也快要启程了，一切紧张而有序。

wait a minute…….. where is MB at the moment?

忙着跟朋友海边烤肉，忙着练习高尔夫球，忙着准备新工作的资料，忙着xmas的旅行⋯⋯⋯⋯唯一没关系的就是这个婚礼，难道求完婚就万事大吉了？

写这篇blog就是给MB同学提个醒，如果再把我们的婚礼当作一个party一样的漫不经心，你可能离番茄炒蛋的日子不远了，对了， 再加一个蛋！